Point Out Your Strengths

"Ultimately, the only power to which man should aspire is that which he exercises over himself." -Elie Weisel

Let's not talk about our weaknesses. We're well versed on the subject and may want to pay equal air time to our strengths. While most of us have an easy time listing our talents and abilities ( e.g., good cook, fast swimmer, master gardener, great singer or math whiz) our personality strengths are not as readily defined.

Research has shown that focusing on your strengths is more productive than trying to identify and fix your weaknesses and problems. You don't have to feel ashamed or guilty about your strengths, the old win-win perspective. As well, you've heard how focusing on something just keeps bringing you more of the same. Positive or negative, weakness or strength.

The top five strengths associated with higher levels of happiness are:

1. Gratitude
2. Optimism
3. Zest and energy
4. Curiosity
5. The ability to love and be loved

If this doesn't match your top five list, it's okay. Focus on your own strengths and keep these five in mind, they'll slowly become a part of your life.

How do you discover your strengths? Some suggestions are:

• Ask the people you trust.
• List the qualities that make you feel most comfortable and at ease.
• Note what you frequently receive compliments on.
• Take a quick test. "Signature Strengths Self Rating Scale". It's the second link within the first paragraph.

If you have some time, take the VIA Signature Strengths Questionnaire. You'll have to register first so that your answers may become part of the on-going research on happiness. There are 240 questions and you'll receive an ordered list of your personality strengths at the end of the test. It takes more time than the self-rating scale (but it's more accurate) and probably less time than surveying your friends and family.

I took the 240 question test and came up with the following top five:

1. Gratitude
2. Optimism
3. Curiosity
4. Social Intelligence
5. Spirituality

If curiosity is not one of your strengths, you may not care to answer any of the questionnaires. You could just focus on the top five strengths that lead to happiness. As for me, I'll see if I can pump up my kapha personality to add more zest and energy while I learn to be more loving and loveable!

Photo: Martin Elkort, Coney Island 1949

Reference: Authentic Happiness
Reference: Reachout.com.au
Links: Senia.com and The Happiness Project.